The female gender, often confusing but never to be misunderstood. Lately, I have wanted to smack a few and knock some sense into them- not because they are being catty or mistreating me as a friend- because they are mistreating themselves as women. Not acceptable.
These issues have to do with men. I am not even going to talk about how the man should act, but the ladies in these situations should know better, did their mothers not teach them?
First and foremost- all women need to understand that NO man defines them, except Jesus Christ.
No man defines who you are and you should NEVER find yourself doing things only because a man says you should or wants you to- and its worse if he expects you to do something that will define you within him. You are a unique woman and no one can take that from you except yourself. You can be happily married and in love with man without letting him define you, you can always have your own opinions, hobbies, and self respect.
Second- Do not let any man treat you like dirt, and do not treat any man like dirt.
Its the golden rule here people, we learned it in kindergarten but we some of us need to re learn it. If a man is belittling you and making you feel like you are a no one- and you can recognize that, then why, WHY would you run back to him? You create how a person treats you and if you allow them to do these things they will never stop. NEWSFLASH, people cannot be changed in their ways as dramatically as we all wish. Sure you may be able to switch the way a man dresses but you will never be able to change the way he treats you. So learn this and then follow rule three.
Third- Get over it, and him.
The hardest rule for me personally to follow. Get over it, and him. He isn't in love with you, he doesn't text you anymore, its over and done. Get over it, pick up the pieces and move on. Do us all a favor and do not let your self look ridiculous to SO many people. Do not ask your friends to pick you up a hundred times over the same stupid guy who obviously cannot see what he is missing. Guess WHAT?! There might be a good reason for this, but you will NEVER find it if you can't move on.
Fourth- Let it happen.
While you are trying to get over it, and following rule three, you must learn to let it happen. Your guard can be up because you got screwed over but seriously ladies can we please let the good guys have a chance at our hearts? Do not have your guard up so high and let every situation with a previous guy define a new situation with a new guy. Go on the date with the guy your friend set you up with, who knows if it will work out, but no matter what you will at least have a horrible date story! Let it happen, you will never find the magic of love unless you let it happen.
I am not claiming to have all the answers I really am NOT. I mean look at me I am single, but my Mother did instill a few values in me and for that I am forever thankful. Please ladies, do not let men ruin who you have the potential to be.
Amor,
Ashley
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